Love requires work…

Love doesn’t come free, it isn’t cheap and easy. True love requires hard work and sacrifice. True love doesn’t ‘love’ expecting something in return. Love is gracious, kind and caring. It does not boast of its own achievements. It is not prideful or arrogant.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV)

A quote I recently read from Danny Lee Silk states that “only when we access God’s love, the one true source of power, are we able to do the work that relationships require”.

Relationships require love as a foundation. Without love relationships fail. Love requires work to remain in love. Love is not just a feeling but it is a choice. We have to choose to love someone. When the relationship is easy love comes easily. But when the relationship is strained or under conflict then love will not always come easily and then it can become hard work.

When we choose to access God’s love for us first. By believing in Him and His power. By believing in His love for us and the grace and mercy that He bestows upon us daily, then and only then are we able to love others. Loving others is an important part of daily life. Showing God’s love to everyone we encounter requires work. Sometimes this work is fun and joyful and doesn’t feel like work. Other times it is hard work that requires more effort than usual.

God created us for work. God created us to love. It is God who initiates love towards us, the love that initiates is unending it won’t stop when we fail or sin, but rather it is a restoring love, a love that will build us up, change our lives, change our desires instead of self interest we will have a God interest we will want to live as God says because this is the perfect love and the perfect way to love. Love is both comforting and confronting, it is the love of God that comforts us, and it is the love of God that confronts us.

Therefore, knowing the fear of the Lord, we persuade others. But what we are is known to God, and I hope it is known also to your conscience. We are not commending ourselves to you again but giving you cause to boast about us, so that you may be able to answer those who boast about outward appearance and not about what is in the heart. For if we are beside ourselves, it is for God; if we are in our right mind, it is for you. For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died; and he died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised. (2 Corinthians 5:11-15 ESV)

We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother. (1 John 4:19-21 ESV)

An example that comes to mind is the example of a surgeon, many find surgery both comforting and confronting. If someone requires surgery for a cancer to be cut out, our mortality is confronted but we are also comforted that the cancer can be cut out. This isn’t the best example as there have been many times that surgery didn’t got to plan. But there have also been many times when it does go to plan. When thinking of God and his love we should think of the later type of surgery, as God also works his plan according to his will.

“Remember this and stand firm, recall it to mind, you transgressors, remember the former things of old; for I am God, and there is no other; I am God, and there is none like me, declaring the end from the beginning and from ancient times things not yet done, saying, ‘My counsel shall stand, and I will accomplish all my purpose,’ calling a bird of prey from the east, the man of my counsel from a far country. I have spoken, and I will bring it to pass; I have purposed, and I will do it. (Isaiah 46:8-11 ESV)

God’s love is a good and pure love, one that we should aim to imitate. God’s love is the love that requires us to love others. God is love!

Blessings to you x