“Our Sense of worthiness – that critical piece that gives us access to love and belonging – lives inside our story.” – Brenè Brown
Everyone has a story inside them. A quick google search brings up multiple pages of results saying that everyone has a book worth of information and experiences within them. Most people however will never write a book and publish it. And that is perfectly okay. Now I’m not saying that everyone has a book writing career waiting to be unwrapped or that everyone will write that elusive best seller. But we all have life experiences, we all face challenges, we all overcome obstacles, we all have those happy moments where things go to plan or exceed our expectations.
So what makes one person’s experience or story more compelling or book worthy than another person’s? Or is it that one person has chosen to sit and write their story out and even take the risk to publish it. Will you write your story?
Life brings us many up’s and down’s. We all have the same number of hours in the day yet we all seem to use them so differently. We all have different focuses at different seasons in our lives. My story right now is one of a wife, a mother, and an aspiring writer. I aspire to share my story, my highs and lows in the hope of being a beacon of encouragement. I hope to inspire dreams, to create goals and to see those dreams and goals achieved. There is nothing fancy about me. I am an ordinary person, who believes she has been called to write her story as it happens.
I find that in this social media and digital world we are becoming more and more caught up with appearances, with having to make everything look Pinterest perfect. Yet I don’t believe that anyone’s life is always Pinterest perfect. Sometimes I wonder if we have become so caught up in our appearances that we have actually forgotten how to live our lives, and actually live them without a smart phone or device in our hands ready to capture the moment. Have we forgotten that moments can exist without us having to capture them? Sometimes it is nice to just be in the moment instead of seeing it though a screen because we are so desperate to get the perfect video or photos that we can then edit and add filters to, to make them look magazine worthy. I believe it is important to capture our memories, but not everything has to be snapped for social media.
This brings me to how we portray our perfect lives. We make it look like we never argue with our significant other, that our children never misbehave, especially not in public, we never have messy houses despite not having a cleaner, working full-time and raising multiple children, plus trying to run a gig on the side that we hope to step out into someday to make our full-time career, all while staying completely sane and never having an off day. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with any of those things, but we need to keep it real. No one is superhuman. We are not capable of keeping everything perfect at every moment.
Yet because of this perceived perfection, we don’t know how to relate when one of our friends is down, it’s harder to see the cues when people spend so much time masking the truth. In this world of always being connected we are never really present. I think it is very important that we actually spend time each day really connecting with those we call our nearest and dearest. It doesn’t take much time, yet it is so important. It is important to truly know our nearest and dearest so we can tell when they are having an off day or week, to be able to know when they may need a helping hand or a shoulder to lean on.
Life is short. Let us make it our mission to make it a good one. To dream with those who cannot dream for themselves. To inspire those who feel lost. To not just wish for a better life for ourselves and those around us but to take hold of our dreams and inspiration and make them happen.
“Owning your story is the bravest thing you will ever do.” – Brenè Brown